I've got mixed feelings about Christmas. For a lot of reasons. Sometimes I feel like there's too much pressure to make everything just right, or too much pressure to see everyone and do everything. I carry guilt around if I don't spend enough money on gifts for people, or if I don't get the right gift.
The last few years I've taken a different approach, and worked hard to let go of the expectations I'd set for myself. One year I chose not to participate in gift giving at all, or tried not to. I try to live with the idea that experiences and memories are most important. That tangible gifts aren't always the best choice.
So much of any major holiday can be built around expectations. They're right up there with assumptions, in the way that they're pretty much the worst. In my experience they lead to miss-communication, and disappointment.Read More